Don’t assume mums are judging you

I just realised Mums don’t judge as much as I thought, some might but I’ll shrug to this. I recently had one of those moments when I realised that after eight years of school with three children, I really don’t know the mums at my school. I drop the clan kids at the gate and wait in my car at pick up, I don’t walk into the school.

I have always hated the thought of walking into the school and waiting at pickup… why? Because I don’t pay a lot of attention, I’m the one who always forgets the school notes, I blame myself (and the huge volume of notes that I will deal with later but never do). I work full time (mostly from home) and run a small side business,  I’m busy, I travel heaps for work, I don’t do P&C, I am the cop out “I don’t have time” mum, I’m also the older mum with the 4 in front (almost.. eeek) that feels out of place with the young ‘uns. I always thought those “good” mums that do the readers, and are part of the school, will just judge so I’ll just steer clear – I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I was invited to a Tupperware party, with some of the school mums – I made some excuse about not being able to come (sorry bout that!). Then I was invited again, and bit the bullet and went. What I thought would be a polite hour of let’s get this over with, 7 to 8 affair, was actually a really enjoyable, fun night, with loads of laughs and I left at midnight 🙂

Not only did I learn I’m not the bad mum, I learnt I am not the only one who didn’t send back the sausage sizzle notes and sent a normal lunch, I’m not the only one who remembers at 9pm on a Sunday that in the weekend chaos the school clothes weren’t washed. I am actually normal!

I also learnt there are people like me and that maybe I was the one who was judging. Judging myself and judging who they might be without knowing them. I am really glad that I have now met some school mums, and in reality “good” mums maybe aren’t real.

I also learnt I like burbon berry cocktails 🙂

– Clan Mummy

PS. I didn’t buy any Tupperware!





9 thoughts on “Don’t assume mums are judging you

  1. Great post! A bit of unsolicited advice from a mom with a 5 in front. Don’t be afraid to get out of the car and volunteer. Your kids will love it (even though they may say otherwise), the teachers will appreciate it and you will make the best friends with other volunteer moms while having some of the most memorable times of your life. Have fun! 🙂


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