The benefits of our kids blogging

About two months ago I came to the decision to stop arguing with my kids about doing their homework. They didn’t want to do it and I was sick of arguing to make them. But both the boys needed to do something to improve both their writing and expression.

My middle son, Bob, is left handed and it is his constant excuse as to why his handwriting is messy.

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My grand two week holiday

I just realised I haven’t posted for a week..

Well I have been on holidays for two whole weeks – yippee! Before my holiday everyone was asking where you going, what you doing? As much as I would like to have been heading to a tropical island sitting in the sun, sipping cocktails, strolling the beach at sunset etc etc.

I’m not. I am have spent the last two weeks sorting life out. Life was chaotic and I felt crap. This entire year has been one long, hectic, never-ending day or that’s what it feels like.

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The sentence I needed to hear

What other people think of you is none of your business. One sentence. One sentence said to me years ago that fell on deaf ears. I should have listened. It was said to me again recently (by my lovely life coach) and this time I heard it. I really heard it.

I have spent my entire life worrying about what others might think and how they might be judging me. Are my ideas silly, do I come across like an idiot, do people think I don’t know what I’m talking about, I doubt myself. I worry. I worry way to much what other people might be thinking. All this negative self talk get’s me no where.

But here’s the thing, people are self absorbed. I’m not saying they aren’t caring, wonderful people. But they are much more likely to be doubting and worrying about what they say and do. They don’t have time to spend their life worrying about you and how you are or what you say. They are way more concerned about themselves.

It is so, so important to start doing your thing and being confident about it. What they think really is none of your concern. Lately I have started to use the one sentence in all aspects of my life, and it has helped me a great deal.

For example, recently I started a little side business, the planning, the setup and the hardest part for me the networking. This has a been a long term dream (read 20 years!). No longer do I walk into a room thinking what if they think I’m an idiot. I now stroll in confidently to talk, ask questions, say what I do, why I do it and how I do it.

So I just have to say it again What other people think of you is none of your business

I hope you hear it too.

– Clan Mummy

Don’t assume mums are judging you

I just realised Mums don’t judge as much as I thought, some might but I’ll shrug to this. I recently had one of those moments when I realised that after eight years of school with three children, I really don’t know the mums at my school. I drop the clan kids at the gate and wait in my car at pick up, I don’t walk into the school.

I have always hated the thought of walking into the school and waiting at pickup… why? Because I don’t pay a lot of attention, I’m the one who always forgets the school notes, I blame myself (and the huge volume of notes that I will deal with later but never do). I work full time (mostly from home) and run a small side business,  I’m busy, I travel heaps for work, I don’t do P&C, I am the cop out “I don’t have time” mum, I’m also the older mum with the 4 in front (almost.. eeek) that feels out of place with the young ‘uns. I always thought those “good” mums that do the readers, and are part of the school, will just judge so I’ll just steer clear – I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I was invited to a Tupperware party, with some of the school mums – I made some excuse about not being able to come (sorry bout that!). Then I was invited again, and bit the bullet and went. What I thought would be a polite hour of let’s get this over with, 7 to 8 affair, was actually a really enjoyable, fun night, with loads of laughs and I left at midnight 🙂

Not only did I learn I’m not the bad mum, I learnt I am not the only one who didn’t send back the sausage sizzle notes and sent a normal lunch, I’m not the only one who remembers at 9pm on a Sunday that in the weekend chaos the school clothes weren’t washed. I am actually normal!

I also learnt there are people like me and that maybe I was the one who was judging. Judging myself and judging who they might be without knowing them. I am really glad that I have now met some school mums, and in reality “good” mums maybe aren’t real.

I also learnt I like burbon berry cocktails 🙂

– Clan Mummy

PS. I didn’t buy any Tupperware!




What owning a hover board means

Well Back to the Future is now in the past, and is, and will always be, one of our favourite movie trilogies (Along with Star Wars, The Lord of the Rings, and the Hobbit trilogies, and Indiana Jones, oh and the original superman movies, but getting off track). For the Lovely Clan Daddies birthday, we purchased him movie memorabilia, Back to the Future movie memorabilia to be precise, a framed copy of Grays Sports Almanac and a replica hover board. And I must say they are really, really awesome 🙂 Continue reading “What owning a hover board means”